Empty and Stuffed

Empty is a word that we don’t like to use to describe ourselves – garbage cans are preferred empty, we often empty a chip or cookie bag, a vacant lot is empty until a home is built.  But for a person to feel empty, vulnerable, well … that must mean there is something...

When Am I Going To Get Over This?

We all have a “this” we want to get beyond. We yearn for the freedom of release from the heaviness of whatever our “this” is. Sometimes in that yearning, we adopt coping behaviors to minimize the discomfort – like ordering that second (or third) cocktail, eating...

Chunk It Down!

So, last week I talked about the distinction between Upgrade and Update – and that I was choosing to Upgrade as I chose my new home. Done! Signed last Friday, though not delivered until January. I won’t lie – even though I have been very consciously choosing to stand...

The Resilience of Both – And

In my youth, I was more of an “Either-Or” person. The swinging pendulum of Either-Or seemed to keep things simple. Circumstances were good or bad. People were friend or foe. I was a sinner or a saint. Fortunately, somewhere in my twenties, I discovered the limitations...

Self-Care or Self-Indulgence?

All things considered, during the ten months of going back and forth from CA to TX to help my mom deal with her Hurricane Harvey flooded home, prep for the house sale and the move, and settling her into her new place in CA, I did well with self-care. While I didn’t...